"The thing from the other night that SBH was referencing really was nothing. Insecurity on my part that was unwarranted, albeit normal after what I've been through, given the actual circumstances."
Denver, it's not "nothing". Your insecurity is not unfounded. This is where I fear that healing can not take place.
In a normal situation, where there was no infidelity, I would agree that the incident was "nothing".
But here is what I see as the ground floor honest and harsh reality.
She's not getting it. And you're in denial.
Why?
Because right now, at this stage of the game, she needs to have a HIGHTENED sense of your needs. If she is talking to a man in your presence then she needs to do SOMETHING to SHOW you that YOU are the only man for her. Something small.
How would you have felt if she DID....
* Grab your hand? * Give you a loving smile? * Send a fast "I love you" text in the moment? * Introduced you into the convo?
Would that have relieved your jealousy? I bet you would have felt like a million dollars.
I'm not asking for mushy gushy hanging all over you. I'm saying a simple gesture of acknowledgement that says... "I'm talking to him but it's you I love."
At least for now. In this moment. At this time of your relationship.
Maybe your insecurities are not as deep as mine. Maybe you don't need these things.
BUT...
"I have to admit that I had some jealousy hit me when W was talking to this guy"
And if this is true. Then she needs to read the situation and provide you with SOME TYPE of rope to make you feel secure.
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012
