You are pressuring her and coming off as controlling. Unfortunately you have to go through with the D process but it doesn't mean the two of you are done as long as you make the changes to be a better person. Real changes for you. Become the person only a fool would have left. Start now. No more excuses.
I agree 100%. Sometimes my mouth moves before my brain thinks.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
I'm actually doing pretty well considering. I am in Florida. I did speak with W today about something my mom said to my D talking about about W. They made Thanksgiving plans, and my mom didn't take it well. Also, W said that maybe she would have spent Thanksgiving together (she has kids) if she were invited. Didn't say anything. I don't know how to react to that.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
I wouldn't bother responding to your W. It would just invite unwanted nonsense.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
I have to say that this morning is a hard one. When it hits, it hits like a lead pipe. I have read about the emotions of other wives and how they are through the roof. My W exihibits no emotion at all. She does not contact for anything other than children issues, she shows no sadness around me or the kids (change), and she is telling children how much better things are now and when I get my own place (I currently stay at my parents'). Papers are filed, and we are currently waiting on the court system for the mandatory mediation. Don't take that wrong; I am glad she isn't suffering like I am.
My GAL is getting better. I have spent the last few days in Florida for a discipliship meeting. It went well, and I will return "home" today. Tomorrow will be tough, as she is taking D's to her friends house then dropping them off tomorrow night. I have some good plans with the children. I always do on my three days per week. It is just tough at times, because even they have realized that it will never be the same.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
This site is great to come to on bad days.just writing down your feelings helps. It is a rollercoaster ride for sure .I go along doing good then something sets me off again . I think I keep myself too busy sometimes and it catches up to me.my just when I was feeling really down my h stopes in for a visit and gave me a hug and kiss when he left which I so needed. Just light everyday talk nothing personal.have fun with your children.
