You mentioned that you GAL activities were a complaint. How big of a problem was that? What else did your W complain about? Or was that it?
Not being family minded (Sports) was the main complaint. She never really complained or talked about it before, but two evenings a week I was at the sports club, and on the week-ends often out. But more than doing things it was my attitude about it. Zilch for the baby, all my talk was: I have a match coming up, and oh I want a new shotgun, and I'm gonna buy this new paraglider and have you seen this harpoon.. etc..
So, I'm not a family man? Fine, I filed for custody. Now I'm gonna have the toddler 50% of the time, and we'll see who's the family man. And I'm bad at finances? Fair enough, I'm gonna put 2000$ a month in that stupid Education account, until the account tops up if that's what she wants!
So basically you are saying you were selfish and now you what? Are doing it out of anger? To get her back?
As for getting her to move back in with you- she needs to see real changes. Just because you filed for 50% custody doesn't mean squat. Are you asking for that now? Are you doing things that SHOW you want to be a full time father? Are you still buying yourself tons of stuff? What about your child and her? Did you ever spontaneously buy them things or was it always all about you? Frankly, it still sort of seems like it is. I find it a bit weird that you call your child "the toddler" Almost like your not talking about a child and definitely not yours.
Why would you call an education account "stupid" and if it is just growing and no one can withdraw from it then WHY WOULDN'T YOU DO THIS FOR YOUR CHILD IF YOU CAN AFFORD IT??????
No offense but it sounds like you feel like she is twisting your arm or something. What she wants is for you to do these things on your own. Because YOU want to. Because YOU recognize it is the right thing to do.
I want my H to come home more than anything. That said, there is a caveat, I want him to WANT to come home. WANT change, and WANT to start new. I want him to be emotionally available and involved with our kids. Not because he HAS to but because he is interested and chooses to.
It really doesn't sound like your attitude has changed much you just have changed the things you have decided YOU want.
