He's Just Not That Into You

[labug]

My dad kind of reiterated a lot of the stuff I am already doing, in response to what H said. The thing is, I already know how H feels because I listened to him say it all last week in MC. So then it felt like a lecture from Dad. "Be feminine, be nurturing, you're too controlling, etc." Not that he isn't right about those things, I just don't need them jammed down my throat.

I think this is your H letting you know how important these things are to him. Don't take it as a lecture from Dad but rather a communication directly from H. Yes it may be bassackwards communication but it's something.

You can be a strong, in charge woman without losing the other parts of you. I didn't realize that until too late.

About the concert convo, it's good that you were examining your feelings and showed some vulnerability. You shared that it was less about the concert and more about how his response made you feel. What can you do about that the next time something like this comes up?