So, what is YOUR GOAL HERE?? IS blowing off her invite helping you reach it?
Is it polite to her sister, who very kindly invited all of you? Be polite to the hostess...
Originally Posted By: leopoldstotch
So this morning my W asks me if I have plans for Thursday and then tells me that my sister in law says I'm invited to dinner on Thanksgiving. I had told her I wasn't sure but that in the morning our boys and I were going to play football with friends. I told my W I would ask the boys what they wanted to do for dinner if my oldest didn't want to drive with his brother to my sister in laws that I would make us dinner.
How old are your boys? You want to wait til the last minute to let your sil know the answer to her invite? To me, that's not cool. Make a decision...
just playing football and then "making some dinner" WILL not impress your w or her family about how you plan a holiday with the kids...why not make it special?
OR take the invite...
She didn't sound thrilled so I said that we would come after football. The way I'm reading it, YOU did not sound thrilled...she reached out and so did her sister. MAYBE it's all about the kids, but maybe not. It's one thing to GAL and be a little mysterious, it's another thing to be blase and border line rude.
One day she was all set to go to her sister's alone since she said the boys could do what they want now we are all going. Go figure and here I thought I would do whatever since I wasn't going to say or make an issue out of my W initially telling me I was on my own.
So why not decline taking the boys and let her have them so you can do what you want?
What do YOU WANT? Own that and act on it. OR be flexible and don't set her up for a lose lose situation.
She's not being that weird to me, as you suggest. No offense but If I were her, I would be confused by your reaction, or put off.
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