Fill me in on the last couple years. I remember seeing photos on myspace with you and the family (H too). Also remember your oldest being involved in baseball and H being very supportive of his efforts, actually being involved. Also remember the trouble H was in at the car dealership. Your Mom and sister also were there for you as family in the past. Being in Iowa, this may not be the case with the relocation. After that, my memory is pretty fuzzy.
So here you are, having lost the strong Lisa and distraught with another OW in the picture. Very understandable. When we mix emotions with trauma, our reasoning ability vanishes, as to be expected.
I've reviewed your thread and have to ask this question. What is your goal? Having been through this is your intention to save or to become strong, GAL and move forward?
This is about what you want not what your H wants, does, or says. Let me know your thoughts and we'll go from there.
And if you remember, patience, patience, patience.
