Another interesting thing to come out of yesterday's mediation session was that stbx announced he had started paying me $250 a week for child support. He said he had made 2 payments, starting November. This is after 15 months of being separated, mind you!!
I presume the mediator had suggested this to him when he went there for his first session (alone) with him. The dates fit.
I was non-plussed to hear this, as I pore over my bank account daily trying to work out how to pay all the bills and interest repayments etc. I had seen no such payments from stbx.
When i got home, i checked and sure enough, there was nothing in my account.
i phoned stbx to ask - as I am $700 short, before food and petrol, this week. He said it was in another account - one that i wasn't even aware i had! (Remember, stbx controlled all the finances in our M and had online accounts for me that he used). He sent me the account number - but of course, as i had no username and password, I could not check.
I texted back to ask for these and after a few hours, he sent them through. (breathe in, breathe out, and try to remain calm)
Sure enough, in an obscure account that we had set up (with a bank that we no longer use) so that the kids could have a savings account, there was an account for me as 'parent authority' for the kids' accounts (these are empty now too as stbx took the kids' money from them long ago).
When I tried to transfer the $500 to my other bank (which stbx knows full well is my primary bank account), I was unable to do so. The bank has a transaction security function whereby an authorisation code is sent via sms text to a nominated phone number.
Guess whose phone receives the security code for all transactions on my account?
You got it first guess - STBX's.
Why oh why would anyone start paying money to support their children, but then do it in a way that was invisible, so that the money could not be used?
And then again, why let me find out that he had been using my account in the past in such a way as to hide all transactions from me?
Is this typical mlc behaviour or am I really dealing with an out-and-out con man? Could this man be the H that I thought i knew?
