AJ, when you make suggestions that I need to change my POV so that I will see H differently even when he hasn't changed any of his behaviors, I think of the scenes in Monsters, Inc. where Mike watches himself on a commercial on TV, looks all disappointed because his face was covered by an advertisement the whole time, then he breaks out in a big grin, saying, "I was on TV!!"
I think this is the attitude(perspective) you're getting at. However, that scene is comedy, it's not reflecting that "obliviousness" as being smart or even serious. I've seen that character trait played out in numerous shows with different characters, but it's never done in a "good" light, but always mocking.
Anyway, perhaps my resistance or inability is because I've never felt that was a good way to go.
