I wasn't comparing my H to a violent, deranged criminal. I was trying to figure out how someone earns trust. It wouldn't do much good to use an example of lending someone another quarter, in spite of the fact that they didn't pay back the quarter you lent them yesterday. Because who really cares if you can trust them to pay the quarter back. No big loss if they don't.
Yes, they get out for time served. That isn't because they've become trustworthy. And if they get caught stealing again, they are put right back in prison, usually with a longer sentence. If I were equating my H, then there's no discussion to be had because at that rate, he'd be serving 27 life sentences and it becomes a moot point. As it stands, he's a free man, which means he is free to continue the same behavior, and he does.
Ironically, my H frequently exhibits all the behaviors I referenced in my "criminal" example, but I didn't even realize that until you pointed out that I was equating him to a criminal. Maybe he is and I'm really not judging him harshly enough. You described the person as "deranged." In that case, I think I'm doing quite well, thank you.
