Don't fall for that. I have the same issues here. H family act like it is my fault he isn't around more. Problem is, I'm not either. lol MY kids are though and really what am I supposed to do about that? They want to see them or not. You know?
Anyway, while I hate to sound nasty- H family want what is best for H. Not you. Or perhaps what they perceive is best. My experience is that even if they disagree they don't say a word because they simply do not want a bad relationship with H. Sounds like it may be the same in your case.
I would also say don't contact your inlaws unless you absolutely have to.
