MLC w/Depression...withdrawing!

[albamarie]

Really it is almost a form of abuse. You accept it and put up with it because you know something is wrong with them. However, the fact remains that it is with THEM

Hi MK-It doesn't seem like Dep. is talked about to some extent here. I know MLC and Dep. go hand in hand, but I'm dealing with a little more it seems as my H is clinically D for yrs now.

The C is mulling through Borderline Personality Dis. - he's not quite convinced of Bi Polar, and def meds need to be given. C has gone as far as saying without meds, there is no man anymore.

Your right it's a form of abuse - I remember saying to H that I feel like I walk on eggshells everyday. Years of not wanting him to get upset so it doesn't ruin our day, dinner, drive, movie, every min of my life spent being passive, or accommodating.

We didn't start out like that, but looking back I can recognize the slow growing change in him, until we had it out and I said IDLY, and he said good because he's a POS anyway. Once that passed a yr later I was all OMG, ILY when he flipped on me.

I know it's because I wanted him to work with me, on us, take care of himself, find his way through what brought him over the edge, not flip his whole character. Go against God, and be the rank, slim he is today.

Another thing just from experience- my H has become more resistant to meds the more I encourage them. If I had shut up it probably would have been better

Thank's I really could use someones experience as I am going through this alone and blind. I don't push the C or the Meds, I'm glad your telling me not to, cause I was going to encourage it, now I will stay shut up, thanks!

It sounds like you really haven't decided what you want, therefore, you keep chasing your tail. One thing is for certain, you do not need any more anger and animosity. So sit down, decide, then take action

Chasing my tail, that's funny, I guess I am, at least I'm not still floundering, because I know now that I don't want to fight for him, I don't want to fight for someone who won't fight for himself, my kids, me!

It's a good thing, it gives me peace when he's out, I don't care about his cell, his visits to ea/ow, his complaints, aches, hunger, nothing! I spent the weekend doing my own thing, and feeling really free of his drama.

Taking action will be done passively for myself - no sudden moves that might rock me, send me backsliding.

I choose to be as understanding and strong for myself as I was doing for my H that didn't except what I had to offer. I am taking better care of me, and treating myself with all the kids gloves I had for H. HE gets my attention when he comes to me, kindess when he's kind, respect when he's respectful, and my happy face because I'm not D, mlc or even in a fog, that's his gig!