I'm really going to have to reach for something to post in my weekly update this time, just not much going on in my sitch.
Saw W a few times over the last week just during kid transfers and as usual we get along great when we're around each other. But no progress in the R. I think the last time we kissed was labor day which was also the last time we ML. Almost 3 months ago, wow! I think that's the longest I've gone without since I was in my 20's. Last hug was... over a month ago I think.
D18 was visiting this weekend and I had all of them at the store with me. W wanted to get D16 to take her to get her nails done. She met us at the store. I looked at W and felt nothing at all. No desire, no painful longing, no fluttery heart, just nothing. If we ever reconcile I can see it's going to take me a while to crank up the feelings again.
Originally Posted By: 7720
Is s(9) angry with W and trying to punish her?
Based on the conversations I've had with him he isn't mad at her at all. He's ADHD so he can be a handful. It's tough to keep him focused. Sometimes it requires a stern approach and W just isn't up for that. When his ADHD starts ramping up I can help him to refocus, but W just lets it escalate.
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I think the WAS loses a lot of respect from the kids when they make this move...it is hard to teach "responsibility" when you yourself are walking away from your responsibilities!
Yes, exactly right. That's one of the reasons I always tell people to hold their ground and not move out, because the kids perceive the one that left as the irresponsible one. Some people let their spouse browbeat them into moving out when they hear things like "it's the only way our marriage will heal" when in fact they just want to have their cake (house) and eat it too. But the kids don't know/ understand the details, so when they see someone leave they think that person is the irresponsible one and even think they don't love them. If it's the LBS that leaves, the kids don't know the WAS "forced" them out, they just see them leaving home.
