Ctflor - I understand a bit of what you're going through. It's understandable but can feel awful. I get the triggers also. A few thoughts:
Switching ICs might help, or just explaining to them that it's time to try something different. I found they don't usually offer new strategies unless specifically asked.
About Celexa, it can help. But while it can give you "emotional distance" and take the edge off the anxiety it also can reduce your "energy" or drive to work on your life and relationship. Some people say it makes them "care less" about their SO. For little while maybe focus on how far you've come and how hard you're trying to make your M better. Just give it a little time. You might want to talk with your doc about changing or adding another type of medication. Personally, a lower dose of an SSRI but with a low dose of another type of medication was 100000% better. Not too overstate the effectiveness of these, but it's done more for me than all the IC and reading....and I did a lot of those. And I can keep working on things....
