Hey Cemar. My are you talkative. I can tell by the way you ignore some of my comments that you don't get men that are LD. I find I understand my H when I read about your W. My H has a very poor body image. He was the fat child everyone picked on and he turned mean. Trust me when I say he can wait years to say "I told you so" and he has no problem withholding conversations, sex, money, and affection from me. He was the kind of kid that took his ball if you didn't let him play. I was the kind of kid that wouldn't play with you anymore when you did that to me. I am oldest of nine, he is the middle boy of the last three kids with a big gap between the boys and the older girls (10+ years). He did not date in high school and his Mom died when he was 12. He is verbally abusive but never in public. He views everyone, even his own family, as "them". He has to be "right". He will manipulate a situation so he is not at fault. Therefore everything is my fault. We haven't had sex in 5+ years because I don't do the "right" things, I don't ask for sex like a grown woman, if I was any kind of woman I would know what to do, he is pain, he is not that interested in sex and I should be relieved that he feels that way. I tell you it has been so long I am scared to walk in the woods by myself. I breakout in a sweat around good looking trees. He was thin when we meet and he talked about all this great food his Mom made so I cooked. Trust me that was a very wrong move. He started eating a got big again and discouraged. He says I should not find him attractive because he is big. I thought he looked funny when he was thin, I like him big. But I want him to be happy and if being thin is what he wants then cool. Only now for some reason he is convinced that I don't want to be thin and this based on a bad reaction to him telling me how to exercise one time. One damn time I told him to layoff with the directions and the criticism. I be trying to get something he is telling me and he wants me to an expert in 10 minutes. So he hates his looks and makes excuses instead of progress and blames me.
