Here's the thread that I was referring to. I hope it helps. It's an oldie, but goodie.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2198470&page=1

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.