Good morning No Ego.

Sorry you find yourself in this awful situation.

I don't have exactly what you asked for "thoughts on any successes..." but I do have empathy.

I am too new to offer much advice, but I would suggest more attention to you and your children, and less to the "what ifs" for right now.

God bless and good luck.

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.