Time to move over here.

[25yearsmlc]

hmm, I just thought it was funny.

But for real Rick, some pets don't need much attention but can still "interact" & make living noises...like a bird. We had finches (active & make cute noises & nest a lot-very active but not screechy or loud). Also had cockatiels (smart!) & a huge red tailed hawk (h was a falconer 30 years ago-intense hobby)...

yes I LOVE my dogs (I swear my dogs sense pain & anger & sadness. I'm sure of it. & who doesn't love beung greeted when you come home? But if you are gone a lot, you're right not to get one yet. Maybe if d comes to live there someday...

My sister has a friendly cat, so I know it can happen, but to me they seem too independent usually. Anyhow, you are making progress!! PLAN NOW for holidays...& do Not react to the spew your Xw may aim @you as reality sinks in more...

but Rick, what's wrong w/a wave in your x's general direction or acknowlegment of her presence, or just plain civil behavior when you get your d? Wouldn't that be easier on your d than ignoring her?


Try hard to LISTEN to what your d tells you (instead of "teaching like a dad", which my d's have complained of in the past w/my h. He's so concerned about them knowing what HE thinks, or so they say, & not enough on what THEY think...)

but remember you're the parent, SHE's the kid who needs reassurance.

I fear you might get a bit needy around her, when She's got to be going thru some hard stuff of Her own. Who does SHE have to talk to? Any bffs? A counselor or boyfriend?

Keep us posted!