Back to Square One?

[mamabird]

I still can't get over the similarities. My H told me this morning he had a business trip to London and he was thinking about "popping over" to Italy while he was there. His father's family is from there and he was going to go with his dad. I also had to remind H about our finances and asked him how he expected to pay for that. If it were possible to refinance our properties, that would have happened many times over.

I've found fast food bags/receipts in H's car - and when he does it, he really goes to town with a very fattening meal. My H also is a little overweight but never made much of an effort to lose weight (or would sabotage like you say). Only when we were on the verge of splitsville did he start trying in earnest, partly to look better and partly to reduce his snoring.

And your story about H going to out to get more coffee really hits home - since that's been happening more around here lately too.

Still, I think you're operating in net positive territory. Keep biting your tongue, as hard as that is.