I catch myself looking at the success stories and I see some that were fixed in a few weeks or a couple months and I keep thinking "why can't that be me?"
Yeah, I remember reading those stories and thinking the same thing. And I was really hopeful that was going to be us too. Early after BD things were going really well. We were going to MC, we were getting along really well at home, going out on dates, having more sex than ever, etc. None of it mattered though. There is no minimizing just how completely and utterly "done" a WAS is when they get to the point of dropping the bomb. It's like asking a cruise ship to turn around to look for someone that fell overboard, just ain't gonna happen.
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When I talk to her i just realize how done she is with me through our little convo.... And man it hurts... I really can't bear it
Yes it hurts, but you can bear it. And don't let her kill your hope in every little convo. Just remember, she's following the WAS script. Don't believe anything she says and less than half of what she does. She's confused and hurting inside. That is the DB 180 tip that you need to burn into your memory and picture it everytime she says something hurtful.
