wife wants her space, doesnt know who she is

[Big Bruce]

In a lot of ways our sitches are common : bad behaviour, W not happy and who gives up, kids.

Let me reassure you : it won't be solved by X-mas, if at all.
I thought at the beginning that my situation would be solved in a week or two. When it became apparent that it would take a month, I got depressed. It's been now several months, but the important thing is to look for baby steps.

So, I'm going to help you with he patience part : it's only the beginning, brace yourself buddy.