My husband dropped a bomb on me just over a month ago. He left a note to say he was leaving me and not been happy for almost 10 year. Went to counselling where he said he had not been attracted to me for years. Thought I was too skinny and did not have the sort of body he prefers. After I became suspicious I found he has been having a emotional affair with a co-worker for the past 4 months. She is also having marital difficulties and will likely divorce. He is head over heals in love with her and refuses to consider giving me another chance. Main issue for him has been lack of intimacy and sex, which I think has led to the loss of attraction. We were only having sex about every month or 2 for the past few years. I did not question him though in retrospect I should have. He thought I was no longer interested. He has not quite moved out, but his bags are packed. Every time we see the counsellor he drops another bomb on me, but at home behaves as though nothing has happenned unless I say something. I can feel him drawing further away every day, but am not sure how much I should say as he is now finding me "claustrophobic" I think the only reason he has agreed to continue counselling is to try and make the divorce easier on me (We have been married almost 17 years) I have backed off, but would desperately like to rekindle our physical relationship. We have had more sex recently, but it has been driven by emotional discussions about him leaving. He thinks I do not know how to be sensual because of my upbringing and says he and the "other woman" both know this is something you are born with and cannot learn. Any suggestions appreciated.
