You can't go completely dark on your h because you have the children and will need to discuss things w/him concerning them. NC is the best way for you to go right now and I would stay that way until he started acting like a civilized person once again.
You are managing well and I know it's tough around this time of year with the holidays, but you and the girls will get through it. How? By starting some new traditions to help change the pace a bit.
I think it's nice that your parents are going to come and spend the Thanksgiving w/you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
