You seem to think that your H actually wants to be married to you.
When he could very well be saying, "She presented like a swan, when in fact she really is a trumpet. I never would have married a trumpet."
You seem to think that he's just trying to make marriage to you, easy...
Don't we all want that?
Marriage should be easy. Our spouses should just BE the person we think they are... that we want them to be...
Does your H just simply want you to stop nagging, so that he can go about selfishly and do his own thing, without regard to you?
Do you simply want your H to be the dog, rather than the elephant, so that you can go about, doing your own thing, without regard to your H?
Because...
Why would marriage to you, be any better for your H... from this day, forward?
I'd submit that if he was everything you wanted him to be, he would be living in fear for the rest of his life, that he might step out of line and have you all over him again, detailing all the things he does wrong...
