I will have to find the website that I found this information about naked non-sexual time together. It can be so important to a couple in so many ways. One, the oxytoxins(sp?) chemical gets produced from stimulating the skin, particularly in women from what the article said. TO me there was nothing better then spooning with the wife naked as we drifted off to sleep. Cuddling up to flannel jammies like she wears now stinks. Two things have to happen for her to go back to sleeping naked, she has to get over her body image problems and I have to win her trust. I also found that I opended up more to her when laying naked side by side while she would caress ALL of my body. It's amazing how vunerable I guy can become when you have control of his manhood, He will promise you the freakin world at that point.
I also need to find another link to an idea from a christian pastor on massage. He explained to new couples that they should have the wife get naked and enjoy a hot oil massage from the husband for at least an hour (once a week if possible). The Husband must stay in his underwear the entire time. Sex was not to occur until at least 2 hours AFTER the massage was over, no exceptions (and it does not have to occur). This was to build TRUST between the man and woman that the guy could touch his wife all over and NOT have to always have sex, but yet build a very intimate moment with her. It is QUALITY time for her. The man will get aroused, but both parties must ignore this. This will teach the man a little more control over his sexuality. We are going for intimacy here, NOT SEX. And truly, HD men are using sex as their way of getting intimacy (but this is not an excuse to ignore sex). This is an exercise in NAKED Non-Sexual Time TOGETHER to build INTIMACY and TRUST. The pastor claimed the women of these marriages were always thanking him for this exercise. I have not tried this yet. I don't think my wife is ready for this yet. Got to find that link!
