It's very common for people who are choosing out of a relationship, to suggest that love is a choice. People grasp at that idea, hold onto it as though their life depends on it.
The reality is, love is not a choice. Love simply is...
The choice...
Is to be or not be with someone... completely... intimately...
This is generally based on fear...
The fear is of being hurt...
The fear of loving someone, and not getting that love back, in turn...
Because we... people... love...
That is not a choice.
Choosing to be with someone. Commit to someone. "For better or for worse... etc" That is the choice.
You are afraid to love, because you have reasons why you think that love is not being returned. So you choose to leave. You don't choose not to love.
You are hiding your love in a tight little box, away from anyone. And will do so for quite some time, even if you do find someone you choose to be with. You will hide that love from them, too. For a long time, or for ever.
When you truly commit to your choice. When you take responsibility for your choice (no pressure here, we all know that you aren't cutting the cord here, at this time), you can choose to love freely again. Without fear of being hurt. Hurt... also... is a choice.
You love your son. Even if he does something really bad. It will hurt. But you will love him. You choose to love your dog, even if he humps your leg.
You love your H.
Yet you choose to leave him.
Because of reasons.
Reasons that you see as him trying to hurt you. That he does not care about your feelings. And many, many more reasons.
So...
Take your time and make your choice and yes... you may need reasons to gather the strength and courage...
