Back to Square One?

[mamabird]

I know, and I feel the same way in my sitch. Much of it does seem unfair. But then I tell myself that lots of things in life are unfair, and that like you are now realizing, meeting our spouses needs first makes sense strategically. Reminding myself this gives me the strength to carry on with my DB plan.

Eventually she will come around, or I will give up knowing I did my best. When we've been married as long as we have been, I feel we owe it to our partners and ourselves to really give this our best effort.

This is great advice that we all need to remember. My father always tells me that I need to be thinking about what I can do for H, regardless of everything else going on. It seems like a very "antiquated" way of thinking yet I can't see how marriages survive outside of this mindset.