I could crawl up and cry right now. The outpouring here just takes my breath away, because in reading all of your posts, I realize that I USED to do many of these things, all the time, and for whatever reason... laziness, demands on time, kids... whatever, I stopped doing them, not realzing how much I was hurting him in the process. Believe me, I swear, it was never in the intent to hurt him. And I don't think any of your spouses are trying to hurt you. They just don't realize... and that is the supreme pity of it all because with everything you are saying, this is sooooo easy, and perfectly within your spouses' power to fix.
Meat, my H often read my posts here, so yes, he knows about the board and he encourages me to use it... just not when he is at home.
CeMar, thank you again for the references. I did get the book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, and I do intend to read it. But with all your responses here, I'm not so sure I need to. Isn't is a shame, but I never thought about sleeping naked. How liberating that would be.
Hairdog, msm, TrainGuy, NOPkins, Lina, Neicie, Luvhubby, honeypot, LL, CeMar... I could just
{{{{{{{{{{{{ HUG }}}}}}}}}}}
ALL of you.
Okay, I've gotta go make a game plan. I can't start ALL of this at once, or I'm afraid he's just going to think it's short-term, and I guess I really couldn't blame him.
I'm taking notes, kids, believe me. Thank you all so much. I love every single one of you.
