Soooooooooooo, went to the shop today because I needed to do an oil change on my truck... When I was done I went into the office and saw W was reading ILYBINILWY book.. She then proceeded to ask me if I had done any of the exercises in the book. I told her I had done a few but mainly the ones which were directed for solo work. I then asked her if she wanted to do some of the exercises together. She said sure "but it would have been nice to know you wanted to do this sooner"...
WTF does that mean?!?! Yet again something that is my fault?? it means you still do not communicate well. You said yourself you are not good at expressing anything that isn't happy and positive. And frankly, NO ONE LIKES to express negatives but we get a little bit BRAVE and we speak up,
when you hold back, you make it hard for people to truly know you...
and when you don't truly KNOW someone, you can't fully love them.
She felt slighted when I told her about the book at MC instead of to her, she told me I should have let her in on it if it was helping me instead of waiting for the MC session for her to find out. AGREED... Now she is putting the guilt trip on me because I didnt ask her to do the exercises?? She is NOT attacking you. What "Guilt trip"? She's expressing a negative emotion SHE FELT...it's not all about you. Deal with it like an adult.
In my head I didnt share or ask because I didnt want to push or pressure.. we know...you were afraid....
She however is looking at it as me hiding things from her and not including her in my emotions/feeling which is what I have done for years to help get us in this mess..
Uggggg....
so what have you learned from this?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
