WOW! Thanks for all the responses!! Honeypot and LL, thanks so much for the number by number items... I consider myself to be an intelligent woman, but honest to god, the number by number suggestions really, really help me... as these are things I CAN do with enthusiasm because I love my H... but because of my LD mind, I just don't THINK of them.
I hear everyone else, too, and I can't tell you how much I appreciate the thoughtful responses. The repeating pattern here is PASSION/DESIRE first and foremost, and frequency, frequency, frequency.
I was thinking about what you all have said, and maybe my recent experience might help some of you.
For the last three weeks, I have been working hard, hard, hard, one might say passionately, on a research project that started about a year and a half ago. I hit a major break through and threw myself into it with an energy that would make most pitbulls feel like a poodle.
I was very, very excited, and I wanted my H to share that excitment with me. I would show him my work, explain my findings, and all I'd get from him were grunts, half-hearted approvals, and a lot of "I don't get what the big deal is here..." responses from him.
God, that KILLED me. His lack of response to MY passion is the same thing that I think you are all talking about. So what I was doing wasn't real high on HIS priority list, but damn it, it was high on mine, so couldn't he show just a bit of enthusiasm, a bit of interest... just a little, just because it was important to ME?
Are there any things your spouses do that could be similar, and maybe you can all reciprocate passions?
Anyway, though I do not feel the physical cravings that you all do, I certainly am passionate about making my marriage work, and helping my H in any way I can feel loved. Jesus, I love being with the man, that's why I am in this marriage for God's sakes, but my means of expression and his means of expression just don't always equate.
So I'm learning the language guys, though all this stuff may seem blatantly obvious to you, believe me, it isn't so crystal clear to me... and I want to thank you again for trying to help me understand....
