Thankfully, I haven't had any opportunity to cry in front of H, because I cry very easily. But I have been making a list of things he does that upset me, so I can plan what to do ahead of time to deal with it. Just thinking about my thinking helps me be more objective about the situation.
I made a list of things I could do to divert my attention: take a walk, sing a song, clean the basement.
And a list of things to calm me down: listening to an ocean wave CD, baking cookies, lighting candles, taking a hot bath.
And a list of affirmations: I can do this. I got this. I can handle this. All is well. I'm not taking this personally.
Having the prepared response, "Today is not one of my better days" is a great idea. Maybe having several different versions of that at the ready would help when he's pressing you.
