Holy smokes- anxiety has seized me like a ton of bricks. Seriously. I got so anxious that I then checked all the accounts to see if anything had been paid or changed. Nope. Nothing. I shouldn't have even looked. Why would he contact me and want all that info though if he wasn't going to do anything? That makes no sense. He makes no sense. I need to take one of my pills I guess. Had a good night and day actually. Now I am obsessing over him. Stupid. Stupid. Stupid. I AM on a pretty good path. I need to shut down the negativity in my head. I'm not saying to not be realistic. I am just saying to not build it up in my head. I am going to go try to go to bed. I hope everyone is doing better than I am at this moment. I also think I probably need to start a new thread. That was random. I also had coffee late tonight. Obviously that wasn't my best idea ever.
Okay...I do this too....STOP! Are loans in his name or yours or both? If both then maybe you can have the discussion that your Credit Rating is being impacted and so is his. Is this a pattern or is this new? I sometimes think my H still expects me to do everything as always and makes motions to carry through on things but doesn't (ie D's phone replacement ,S's computer repair, paying some bills etc). I am just not stressing anymore, or at least trying not to. The ball in my stomach says otherwise.
So, you have two choices, leave him hanging and wash your hands, you may never know if it was aborted attempt at more independence for him or if it was some sort of little power struggle; if it is simply he has no money to pay; or he was waiting for you to take over..? It's all mind reading, so I think you have to do what doesn't give you stress. If that means paying the bills etc so be it. If he asks, just say calmly and nicely, this is a big stress for me so I will pay these things...if he wants to take care of cells, he can go ahead. He doesn't pay, he explains to kids, not you. If cells get cut, you just say Dad was taking care of these, so you can ask him. Not accusingly, just say you don't know.
You ARE on a good path and you have given me a lot of strength myself as I see you navigate these waters. ((())))
