HI think you are doing all the right moves and if your W is getting angrier it's because you are taking away her justification for wanting to leave.
Arsene, I never thought about this until now after reading a strong of comments including yours and wonder how this is not all just leading up to her leaving either way but even angrier when she does.
I know I cant stop her from going, but am I just poking her with a stick before she leaves
W: 40 Me: 44 M: 12 years Together: 14 Three children (S-4, D-3, S-1) EA started in April, discovered in 07/12 ILYBNILWY: 07/12 MC Started: 09/12 Patience Tested: 1,245,963 times since 07/12