Thank you for this, it is hard to expose things and be possibly vulnerable. Since you are getting more questions together, I have some as well, and a comment or two...
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-- she never consoled me –-- She said don’t worry I am making good money – you’re making some money – we will manage and you are doing such a great job raising Mickey it doesn’t bother me – don’t worry.
^^^ Is consolation. She was saying that she had it covered until your got your groove back, but don't take forever.
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Another big thing is I really didn’t want children before I got married but I told her that since it was important to her I would be willing to have one – in 2008 she started asking for another baby and I said no – I wasn’t really listening to her – it was so damn important to her – and I didn’t see it I only cared about ME as usual !!!......she says things are good between us so why don't we have another baby - I said if things were better I would discuss it - not guarentee it -- and I wasn't really secure that things were better
So a few posts ago you were thinking of looking elsewhere because you're rolling in on 50 and want more kids? I'm confused...
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here I had a wonderful girl who I left alone and now I am paying the price for it.
What do you mean here by "left her alone"?
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I haven’t had a DB phone coaching session since September because she seems to contradict a lot of you and I want to do something that works.
As 25 pointed out, what version of things did you tell the coach? Coaches, therapists, forums can only help as far as anyone is willing to tell the whole story, know what I mean? Advice given on half information is half as useful sorta thing...And as far as the therapist, I am surprised that they didn't have a couple/few sessions with you to get both sides of the story before recommending some course of action, but that is just my opinion.
And rolling back to an earlier question about your male role models...how about your heroes? Some of mine were, in no particular order, Captain Kirk, Mr. Spock, Engineer Scotty, John Wayne, Clark Gable, Humphrey Bogart, Hawkeye Pierce, Jim Morrison, William Blake, Albert Camus, and on and on...my point was, pick one and ask yourself, "How would manly {insert role model here} handle this?"
Looking forward to your responses...
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
