Sorry I sounded so pushy, I just felt he was bullying you but then I sort of piled on you too. I hope you save money by having all those other parties involved, but think if push comes to shove, you can hire your own child T to help your l, and trust yourself to put them first. Hard for me to believe 2 Ls would have cost more than 2Ls and those other para professionals. But you have other motives and I get that.
YOUR H, otoh, has to confront the reality that his suggestions and proposals were all consistently self serving. YOURS are not. You are giving something up by not going back to work and yet it's a trade off you are making b/c you learned something from this ordeal. You are getting less money and adult feedback but so be it. You are not a mother first...all else second.
Good for you. What will HE do differently next time?
Oh, nothing b/c she'e perfect and so is he...I forgot.
Well thank God YOU are doing YOUR work.
I agree that you must not wait and or hope that OW will lose her appeal. Your h is very invested in being "right" about her, b/c he did a crappy thing leaving a pregnant woman, period.
If he isn't DAMN HAPPY NOW, it'll mean he deeply hurt you and the kids for nothing. That can't be! EVen if he's miserable as if today, let alone 2 years from now, you won't know it for years, if ever.... So you do what you are doing. You work on YOU and when you know that's what you are truly doing,
THEN
you leave the results up to God, and go in peace...
((( )))
(I look forward to meeting in real life)
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
