when do I start piecing ?

[MrBond]

"I don't want to look spiteful or angry"

But you are. And more than just a little.

Your W's IL's are great for inviting you. All they're doing is protecting their daughter. You'd do the same for your kids so don't blame them.

Unless you find a way to get rid of the resentment and anger, you won't be able to save your M.