But I don't understand how you get these numbers? Do you have to like someone to go out with them? I never go out with someone unless there is something I like about them. Is that why I am going out with no one?
JCJ dating is like psychiatry. A hit or miss kinda of a thing. The more guys you date the more likely your are to find the one you liked the best. You can always date the same guy more than once and see if there is anything there while seeing others. What I'm saying is put yourself out there and ride the wave and have fun with it. Eventually one will spark your interest. You must be patient you can't rush love. The perfect guy you have created in your mind don't exist. Oh wait he is typing this. Lol
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Oh Lord....I've gone out on way over 50 coffee dates! I put on my profile I was seeking a relationship and not just dating to date. He was the one who pursued me and I simply responded. When he backed away (from fear) I called him on it (lovingly) and I guess he didn't like that. I want a MAN; not a little boy who runs at the first sign of closeness.
Look, we all have a component of fear about us. BUT, I choose love over fear any day. I've met a few men ready for a R, but I just wasn't attracted. He'll find me...
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
I wanted to tell Ellie about my Starbucks date I had right before I went to CA. The guy stated a height of 5'6" on his profile. He is amazingly good-looking. He was about 30 minutes late to a date he asked me on. Finally shows up and walks up to me, recognizes me from my photo. I was looking over the top of his head, so I didn't see him. He was about 5'1' tops, including his shoes. I am not against short guys.
BUT, I am 5'5.5" And just felt like a giant with him. Then he walked me to my car and wanted a kiss. Which did nothing for me.... Anyway Ellie, I guess I have short man karma going on.
Though NG/CT called me up yesterday. Don't know why I even answered. He TOLD me I was going out to dinner with him. Made me laugh and gently remind him I had told him I didn't want to date him anymore. He never apologised for how rude he was when he called me. For all I know he was so drunk he doesn't remember it. Now he wants to show me his new (used) car he got. Seriously?
I didn't share here what insanity he displayed when I broke up with him. I had told him we needed to talk. Which always means bad news, right? When I was done telling him I didn't want to go out with him anymore he looked stunned. And said: "I thought you were going to ask me to marry you."
MY CRAZY METER WAS PEGGED!
I am just never again going to take a call from him. He is saying he wants to be friends and hang out. The way I see it, hanging out with a guy blocks me from meeting other guys. He was 6'2", though.
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
On the subject of "tall/short". I have to say that when I first saw Josh's photo online - he looked quite tall and slim. It did not list a height as I recall. When I first met him he was sitting at the bar so I recognized him but he stood up and I was shocked that he was not tall and a bit stocky. Not shorter than me, though, unless I wear high heels. Well - these days I'm definitely heavier and my feet say "no high heels please" - so it all works. I find we are a comfortable size - if that makes any sense at all.
Wow - the conspiracy theorist definitely is a whack job, stay far far away (or as far away as you can on an island).
As for height - I once had a mad crush on my sailing instructor in college - he was about 5'3" but HOT - and had a degree in physics. Unfortunately he also had a girlfriend.
Ummmm...... Wen, I'm not active on the alt as far as the DB chain. I did look you up once but - oddly enough - we have a mutual friend in real life! Someone I really couldn't explain this to. So keeping my privacy for now, for professional reasons.
That's ok. You know where to find me if you ever want to.
I have several wacky connections to folks. A guy who I was in the air force with is a high school friend of a friend I sailed with and ended up very close with her daughter and SIL.....
If I don't post for awhile, I just want to say thanks for all the help you have given me.
Aloha,
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
