I wanted to ask for thoughts on any successes that worked their way out of extremely complex situations.
My wife lives with me and wears her rings and eats and shops out of our joint checking account. We have two children we raise together. She is in full-blown MLC, including mood swings and an affair. She has completely disconnected from me except for contempt and sarcasm, though with the occasional routine pleasantries and a goodnight kiss in our bed.
She is "in love" with my son's soccer coach, who is divorced and has two sons of his own. He is a classic OM, in that he is underemployed and she feels important helping him, loaning him $, taking care of things he can't do as a single dad. His kids and mine are the same age and my wife no doubt believes she can get an additional dose of "Mommy" love by doting on them. In short, she has two families, neither of them real.
If my wife and I were to reconcile, two kids would lose a "mother figure"; if she takes off with the OM then my kids lose their family and gain a very strange new one: my son's coach and his two kids, with their father alienated. Has anyone ever come out of such a strange soap opera with an intact marriage?
