Having an up and down week. The more I think, the more I'm resigned to the fact that I only have 2 options - divorce now, or divorce later. I don't think option 3 is something I want any longer. But since I've been better at detaching and practicing DB, hubby has been kinder toward me, and we have spent some quality time together (for family function and by ourselves).

I think I'm going to tell him I know about the affair after Thanksgiving, but before December hits, as I don't know how much longer I can keep this information inside me. Either he'll be mad and want to move out immediately, or he'll want to work together to continue paying off the debt. I also think he may want to work things out, but I don't know about that option for me anymore. If he wants divorce right away, or moves out right away, I'll cancel all the pre-arranged payments with the debt collectors and we can work an arrangement to divide the debt. I've