Nothing new here. I haven't heard from H. So apparently his need to do nothing has overcome his need to "get things settled".
Am I surprised? No. He'll wait for me to assume my old role as The Expeditor.
I did have to email him about arrangements for him to pick up our sons on T-giving day. We are all going to be out-of-town in the same town and the sons won't have a car to go meet him so he has to pick them up.
He didn't respond.
I had some anger this past week but at the same time I feel sad for him, he's so uncomfortable. I know someone will say, and rightly so: Mind-reading.
But he is unsettled, because when I communicate with him it forces him to have some kind of feeling, an emotion that he then has to stuff.
Not a happy way to live.
Agree. But I understand what that feeling is as well, when H says something that triggers my need to explore, dissect and fix NOW, the R. H is a stuffer and just retreats further.
I, too, have the Expeditor role. Now I refuse. I just put a list of reminders in a package and he can do it or not. Of course, it is not as important as making sure babies have a ride, but I probably would have organized my way into a divorce by now, if I hadn't had the good fortune to be here!
