Don't confuse your 180's with pursuing behavior. In the past, I've seen a lot of LBH's tell each other that it's okay if they are doing it in order to be a better person. You can dress it up, but it's still pursuing.
What you told her isn't near as bad as some things. I'm sure you did mean what you said to her. But, she knows that she would have appreciated being told this same thing many, many times in the past. The thought that so many WAW's have is "too little and too late". It is the big killer!
If the two of you are living in separated homes or she has filed for D, I believe the WAW
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
