James you need to detach from her...are you doing anything to keep yourself busy? It is hard under the same roof I am sure...when W told me we had to wait for the kids to come back from GP house and then give them a week to decompress---so hard! What is your 180? Maybe it is "you need to get out sooner than later" don't be afraid sounds like she is going to do it anyway...having her around is making it harder on you to GAL....
