Originally Posted By: afa75
Thanks Arsene. I was flipping through it earlier today looking again. Now I'm sure I can find it.
Side note, I've been reading up on your sich, just no comments lately.
Thanks friend!

Journaling....
So based on my recent posts above, W has been coming closer, emotionally and physically. I've been too eager and too hesitant to believe it's true.
Tomorrow she has an overnight work trip. Located 1/2 way between home and OM's place. I'm fearful they'll meet at her hotel. Not much I can do but pray she has been truthful with me lately and that it's done in that sense with him and that I'm being a bit insecure. At least honest here though.
Trying to make plans with friends to go out Saturday, something at least.
Cool thing is I've reconnected with friends from Philly who now live in the Carribean. They invited me to come visit. Now to find funds to fly down. smile

Also, think I may have to finish my current Mitch Albom book and then reread DR again.


Yeah afa... tough. I know the feeling. In my experience, I learned that you kind of just have to let whatever is going to happen, happen. If your W sees OM on this trip, I believe that you will know. I always found that my instincts were pretty good. Something about my W's behavior would change if she had contact with OM. Hard to explain. Bottom line though is that you cannot control what she is going to do. So what you have to do is behave normally and appropriately. In other words, don't let her see you sweat this. If touching base once that evening is normal for you guys, then do that. But don't call her over and over, and ask her a million questions. See will see the insecurity all over that type of behavior. And that wouldn't be good.

Something else that i wanted to address... do I have this right that your W wants to remain friends with OM?

I see that as very problematic if so.


M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce