The Lure of the Siren

[Denver_2010]

Ok. So I m doing this distance thing to help me feel better yet, after a week of it, I still feel like crap, and now to top it off my w and I don t talk anymore. This doesn t look like progress to me. In fact I feel like I ve taken a huge step back. Whatever happened to doing what works? Sorry! I m just venting my frustrations,

I can empathize with your pain, Arsene, but I would submit to you that -- based on your last couple o' dozen posts -- what you've been doing is NOT working.

Detaching WILL feel counterintuitive! Hell, 90% of DBins is counterintuitive. If what felt right in all of our guts was the way to go, none of us would have ever landed on this sad little DB beach to begin with.

You are using your wife and even your young daughter to soothe yourself. Until you learn to self-soothe, and find the will and the strength to DETACH on a consistent basis, I'm afraid you will be forever stuck in this same place. You are leading with your EMOTIONS, and that isn't a recipe for DB success in my experience.


Starsky

Yup. The hardest thing in the world to do, but it must be done... eventually.