Dealing with the reality of separation

[Denver_2010]

Then hear what she has to say but you shouldn't be obligated to make any decisions or to reply to what she says. When she's finished, tell her you will take what she's said with careful consideration but you had rather not reply at the moment.

She will probably think you are trying to buy more time. So, if you do know your decision regarding whatever she talks about, then give her a calm response right then instead of waiting till later. The point is....don't fear her reaction to what you say (or don't say). Don't allow her emotions to dictate what your answer/response will be. After all, if everyone agreed on everything.....there wouldn't be a need for this board

Agreed.

I would agree to the conversation. You should be prepared to listen WAY more than you actually talk. Validate her feelings on whatever the topic ends up being. And, like Sandi said, be prepared to tell her "I don't know. Let me think about that and get back to you" on anything that you truly are not ready to provide an answer on. Polite, kind, non-argumentative, doing well by yourself... that should be your demeanor.

listen, listen, listen... and when sick to death of listening, listen some more.

Lastly... be prepared to hear the worst. You need to maintain control of your emotions regardless of what she says to you.