CrazyV, I see what you're saying. But I think it's a good idea to point something out: your husband is different then your other friends. As such, you deal with him differently, right?
I get the disappointment, but what I saw in your post is that you see things differently more than a "lie" per se. That's an outsider looking in vs. man/woman thing.
What do you do? I think stepping back and seeing that you're "different" is a good start. Not to say that you both can't change, and not to say he doesn't have things to work on, but you both have different things to work on that contribute to the dynamic - both healthy dynamic and unhealthy dynamic.
Be the change you want to see. I see things you can both change that would help, if that helps
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
