Broken, you have a very wise perspective. Write that down somewhere - if chooses to not have a R with you on his own, then you deserve a better relationship without him. That perspective is very important and very wise. You cannot coerce him or guilt him - that wouldn't work long term.
For the record, a decent working relationship with H would help the kids. But that's not in your control - so don't beat yourself up about how to do it. Just be open to it in whatever form it comes. It won't likely be a way you recognize due to the past behavior. But instead keep your focus on what's best for the kids. You won't regret that!
Be kind to yourself. Your emotions will go all over the place - if they didn't, then you didn't likely care anyway Just be ready for that and keep the above in your thoughts when those moments come. Until then, keep the door open and do YOUR best to be the best you. You won't regret that either
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
Just be ready for that and keep the above in your thoughts when those moments come. Until then, keep the door open and do YOUR best to be the best you. You won't regret that either 