Put your hands up; it's a wild ride

[someguy1233]

From what I see from reading this thread you need to GAL man. You are exactly where I am. Worrying about rings, phones flipped over, trying to control her, worried one night she touch you the next night she doesn't.

You need to start making plans. You need to learn to meditate or do something to get the stress out. At night you need to read books and detach. Spend time with your son. I am no expert but I've had a ton of expert advice.

reading your post gave me instant anxiety and made me realize why LA stopped reading my posts.

If you are truly detached you will not worry about phone being flipped over (I KNOW IT [censored] CUZ MY W DOES THIS), rings on, etc..

Thanks for stopping by, PowerOfNow. I've been following your thread closely as well.

I don't mean to come across as being filled with anxiety. For the most part I'm actually very calm. I have a bad day every once in a while, but for the most part I'm pretty even. I don't try to control W. I don't obsess about her upside down phone, rings, etc. I just note their existence and move on.

Mr. B told me my anxiety is self inflicted. It is. GAL is only fix man. If you can't get out of house I suggest doing something away from her. Working out, movies, get a hobby, do something and take focus off wife.

Just in the last 2 days this has helped me 3 fold.

When my W txt me now I reply in away where I dont EXPECT an answer. I am short,cheerful, and precise.

Good luck man.

I do what I can to GAL. I started reading again. I pulled out my guitar that I haven't played in years. I hang out with friends and family. It is tough with our work schedules and S. Often times W still asks me to join her in watching TV in the evenings.

I've also ramped up my communication. I was giving brief/cheerful responses. W pointed out that I barely talk with her anymore and I was being "cold." I'm working on finding that fine line between distancing and appearing as if I don't care.