Put your hands up; it's a wild ride

[someguy1233]

Deciding between SAHM, PT work, FT work is a huge decision for most women. Give her the time, space and support to do that. It seems you have the financial means to make it work whatever she chooses.

If she needs to contribute a certain amt to the household, I hope you've talked about this. Don't want any resentment creeping in later.

Roughly two weeks ago we figured out a rough budget. We can afford fer her to only work part time, but it will cause us to significantly change our lifestyle. A change that we'd both be willing to make for happiness. It's the old saying, "money can't buy happiness!"

It sounds like you are doing great and your w seems to be making progress. I think it might be helpful to remember, no expectations. Take those small steps as being positive.

Thanks, eyesopen. It's nice to hear perspectives from outsiders.
I struggle with no expectations. It's really hard to let go of them.

SG you are being to hard on yourself and I think your expectations are really high. Don't let her wearing her rings then taking them off bother you. My W hasn't worn her rings but once since she said we were seperated. We went out back in Feb I think for my cousins birthday and I noticed she had them on. I didn't say a word about just thought to myself that it was fake.

Your W I'm not sure comment may have meant she isn't sure about you the two of it also may not. You are mind reading here. Stop doing that bud it solves nothing but drives you crazy.

Baby steps SG. I think I suggested to you before to read Bustorama's thread. His story is similar to yours and he managed to reconcile with his W. Strange how some of the success stories on here all have something in common. When the LBS was truly the one ready to move on with their life and D their WAS the WAS realized that they really didn't want to D. It may help you to read those stories to know exactly what those LBS went through.

Take one day at a time and don't get your hopes up because you are only in for a let down. Its going to be a long journey. Trust me I know look how long I've been in my sitch with really no progress on my W's part. Overall I think you are doing good.

Thanks, leo. I always appreciate your insight. I guess this time I really got my hopes up because she was wearing her rings. This isn't our first rodeo. We've had troubles in the past and her putting on her rings back on always signified her willingness to try and work things out. I immediately got that expectation. I guess I'll just learn that it may not mean that any longer.

Thanks for the tip on Bustorama's thread. It's a long read but I've been slowly going through it.