I had been wondering how things were going with you. Still in the trenches I see.
I have similar questions regarding cake-eating. I am trying to separate cake-eating from "living as is". The two seem to contradict each other and I have yet to wrap my head around the concepts.
Excuse my inexperience if the following suggestion goes against the db grain (but your sitch seems so unique due to your role in the R and your geographical distance too) but if you are being a "friend" to him only make limited contact as a "friend". I wouldn't expect my friends to listen to the gory details of MY sickness - if you wouldn't listen to your other friends in such a manner, wouldn't those rules apply to him as well?
Just a thought. Hope your day goes well.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
