The only way he will miss you and the things that you did for him is when you are not around.
Yes. And that was the plan. I am a bit of a planner. I do not like to go into situations (especially ones where I am unsure) because I inevitably just cave. If he does call and asks, is your suggestion that I "just say no".
Originally Posted By: snodderly
As for filling an emotional void for him...stop his cake eating. You are not his mother or shrink and he needs to learn to appreciate and have respect for you. Take back your respect and let this man go and find himself. He's definitely been straddling the fence and if his lips move, he's lying to you about the ow. The affair will not die a natural death until you set him completely free and she gets to hear all of the bloody, gory details of his life. Why should she only get the best part of the cake and you get the scraps?
Thanks, I needed that. But the truth is I am still confused as to HOW to stop the cake eating in a real tangible sense. I do not intiate contact anymore. Mostly because I know he is lying about the OW.
I am not trying to be dense here, but I find that the more I read on here, the more I am confused about "solutions". The biggest problem in our relationship was my distance and unavailability - I don't want this to be "more of the same".
Maybe I just don't know how to say no and still keep the lines of communication open.
